THE MOAMAN FILES

[MAOMAN]

This thing is a fucking trainwreck, I feel sorry for the poor sod. Oh well, backstabbing seems to be de rigeur among expats in Taiwan.

I am the first one that will stab you in the back.

[MAOMAN]

Tonight I was at a restaurant and saw Jim. I bitched at him and said if he was going to be there I would dare the owner to let me leave.

Jim just said well fuck off and be on your way then. The owner of the restaurant being a good friend of Jim's didn't want to get involved and wouldn't back me up with my demand that Jim shouldn't be welcome there if I am there. I had to scurry away with my tail between my legs. So I left my wife with there sitting near Jim and Michel and fled, waiting until I was at least 10m away so I could turn around and flip the bird to Jim. He just laughed in my face.

I am so hurt my pictures are all over the internet. It's not fair.

I'm so glad Vanessa stayed behind and had a good time. My wife obviously enjoys the company of others. Here's a pic of her after I left. She looks pretty happy.

[BLACKCRUSADER]

You posted all those pics Tony not I. Try google images. You forget about things like you are the one being a public figure claiming to represent expats in Taiwan. For fucks sake your kids can't even speak Chinese because you thought they would be superior beings by only speaking to them in English and now they can't manage at a local school because you thought they should not learn their native language in the country they are born and raised in with one parent being local and the other parent also professionally proficient in Chinese.

Life's not fair? What that you be the only one who can be an admin of a site they don't own? Also its very rude of you to tell people where they can or cannot be in a public place, especially as I had a dinner engagement, and you were just a passer by. You acted like a spoiled brat who shat in his own nappy. What sort of person abandons his wife on the terrace just cause he has a hissy fit? Good thing is she refused to leave to be with you. Nobody needed a snooty sissy hanging about anyways. Gutless wonder you are. Can't walk up to me and flip the bird in my face like a real man, you have to cower from 10m away. As if I give a damn. No wonder you scurried off like a cockroach about to be crushed under someones shoe.

Anyways Vanessa said after 12 years of being with you it was so refreshing to spend some time in our company without you. We all had a good time and a great meal Michel ordered for myself and another guest.

Too bad you left cause I wanted to give you an invitation to my farewell party.

Vanessa really enjoyed talking to everyone after you left even though your ordered her not to talk to me

[MAOMAN]

You posted all those pics Tony not I. Try google images.

Yes I posted those pics but that doesn't give you the right the take them from what every link you can find.

[MAOMAN]

Actually for all wondering Jim and I are really getting along quite well. NOT.

Jim you need to lose some weight.

[BLACKCRUSADER]

Wow now I run into to you 2 nights in a row and my regular dining spot. Funny how you get all high and mighty asking me have I no shame about posting pictures of people, when you do exactly the same thing on the net.

Very hypocritical of you Tony to tell me what I must not do on the net whereas you can. The person who has no shame is yourself. Why should it matter if a picture of your wife that you didn't take ends up on the internet. Do you have a god given right to tell others not to post pics Tony? Or is that something only you are allowed to do?

Certainly I do not order my wife as to who she can and cannot talk to. Such contempt you must have for your own wife to demand of her who she can and cannot talk to. Afraid she might say or do something to embarrass you? Also do not to tell me where I should be living Tony. Whether it be in Taipei or Alishan you can stop trying to be the big bully by telling me where I can or cannot be. You sulk like the spoiled egotistical person you really are. You really are the drama queen.

[serial killer on parole]

Disputes with Taiwanese Strangers: Dos and Don'ts by maoman » Tue May 07, 2013 15:24

Assuming that you want to "win" the dispute, here are a couple of suggestions, based on personal and observed/related experiences:
Don'ts:
• Never flip the bird (give the finger) to anyone. It provokes a wildly irrational and disproportionate response and can leave you legally liable.
• Never use "fuck" in any of your utterances, for the same reasons as above.
• Never make physical contact. If it's an angry, potentially physical situation, keep your hands behind your back.
Dos:
• Try to keep the dispute as public as possible. If there's a chance that things can be resolved amicably, the presence of others will encourage restraint. On the other hand, if someone goes nuts, they're more likely to go completely bonkers out of control if there are people watching. Witnesses are always nice to have in this situation.
• Record the altercation. Video can be a provocation, but an audio recording is much less intrusive, and most smartphones have a microphone function. Narrate what's happening as it's happening.
• Smile politely until your face aches, and then keep smiling.
• Admit to nothing.
• Never give out personal information like business cards to the person with whom you're having a dispute.
• If it's serious, don't just settle for police involvement. Ask for a Foreign Affairs police officer.

What else?

Tony, you flipped the bird at a local citizen. Then you give advice to others on what do to or not do. Such a hypocrite. What a big man you are on the forums.

I heard the only one going nuts and bonkers the other night was you. I bet your face was aching and not smiling when you were giving Jim shit.

Such a loss of face for you.

Did Jim admit to anything? My guess is he didn't.

[TROLL_UNDER_BRIDGE]

The "dos and don'ts" list is the biggest crock of shit I've read on expat forums in a long time. The whole thing is based on excessive generalizing and cultural stereotypes. Yes, conflicts with people here may involve different behaviors than we are used to in our home countries. But you still have to think your way through problems and treat each person and situation as unique. You can't uncritically follow some random expat's homemade SOP for conflict situations (in fact, I'd say you shouldn't pay much heed to what expats say generally about this place). Any resolution to a conflict which you arrived at through your own wits and situational awareness, and which produced a desirable result, is the correct way to deal with that particular problem. Don't let some expat idiot tell you "oh no, you should never apologize. Don't admit to anything. I have guanxi." DO think for yourself. DON'T listen to expat lore and bullshit.

[REPLICANT]

What a nice new thread, the Stasi Files.

Are these secret files only for registered users?

[THE HULK]

Seems to. Oh well.... At least Tonys outbursts are kept hidden.